4 Steps to Take Control of Your Sex and Your Life


Isn’t it time you stopped making your partner or your current circumstances responsible for your happiness and sexual pleasure? The truth is, most of us unwittingly sabotage our pleasure by focusing on what we don’t have or want more of. When you are single, you crave a relationship, and when you’ve been in a relationship […]

Caught: When Infidelity Hits Home – Now What?

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How it Feels: On some level, one of the best ways anyone can relate to what it feels like to catch your spouse cheating is akin to how the world felt on 9/11. I bet you know exactly where you were and what you were doing when you found out.  Your life, and time itself, […]

Am I Addicted?

Porn Addiction

This heated question is one that therapists, psychologists and mental health clinicians can’t seem to agree on.  And while it might be a debatable whether usage of porn and sex can actually cross into classical addictive behavior, what most professionals can agree on is that countess individuals struggle with thoughts and behaviors that feel excessive, […]

Good Enough Sex

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I know when I first heard the term “Good Enough Sex” I thought to myself, wow….this is a menopausal model of sex …..I mean that until such time as age does impact our hormones and therefore how readily we can become aroused  I wouldn’t want to set my sights on this type of sex. After […]

Savor The Moments

Just say thanks

  I’m inviting you to notice today, what are the moments that speak to you in a way that your natural response is to smile, say ahhh…… In any day, there of course will likely be frustrations, disappointments, that of course are obvious and our minds/brain of course wants to dwell on them. This is […]

Monogamy and the Internet Generation


The internet has become a powerful tool in good and bad ways for relationships. On the plus side, there is no limit to the exploration of possibilities for education and eroticism in stories and in images still and streaming. The down side is that for many couples, a partner will use of the internet to […]